You decide to be happy

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"Only you decide to be happy." A phrase repeated to me so many times, but it took a while for it to sync in. I lasted a bit knowing it but not applying it. I put my happiness in others, on everything else happening around me. I put my happiness on other people, my family, blood test results, the number of friends, looks and many other things. But things started to fall into place when I realized I had control of my happiness and when I chose to take responsibility for specific actions and thoughts. 

For instance, they often told me to stop eating sugar because it was not good for me or my immune system. Every time I ate chocolate, I was mindful of that, but I had not decided to put myself first, making it challenging and frustrating to leave that chocolate aside. I would blame everyone else and my body for not acting in a certain way for everything happening. In my head, I was not the problem; the problem was my parents, brothers, friends and every situation that frustrated me and didn't let me be happy. Things changed when I understood the following: 

• That I had the power to decide how and what affected me
• That I was the one throwing myself in a hole and that I was the one frustrated with myself 
• That only I could get myself out of that hole 
• That nothing and no one, not even a person or a disease, had the power to change my happiness 

Only the day that I willingly and consciously said, "I am going to stop eating sugar for some time, and I'm doing this FOR MYSELF and FOR MY BODY," it became easier to see the others eating ice cream and not frustrate myself for not having one.

It was all about understanding that I had the power to stop being frustrated at those around me for "things not going my way." It was about understanding that I decide if things are or not in my favour and that no one is attacking me or is to blame for what happens to me.

All in all, this was a battle between me and myself, and only I could take the armour, choose to smile towards me and others, and stop breaking my self-relationship and relationships with others.  

Today I want to tell you that when you are 100% conscious about your decisions. Only when you stop looking to blame someone or even disease will you realize you have the power in your hands. Only you choose to be happy, independent of any situation or people that may frustrate you.

Today I listened to a song saying, "who would've thought that love just like coffee when we leave it for later cools down too. Life goes by, and because I left it for later, I forgot to live it."

Self-love and love towards others can get cold. The choice to be happy comes from self-love. Let's not let it cool down to the point that we get frustrated with others and situations when in the end, it's a YOU problem 🙂

Look inside, take decisions from the inside, and you will get there when you choose to be happy to the 100th% regardless of the people and situations around you.